Life lessons I wish I learned sooner.
“People come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime… When you know which one that is, you will know what to do” —Unknown
Life is hard. It’s crazy beautiful, all at once. We just need to trust in God’s plan & not be so set in the plans we make for ourselves. While we all go through life’s struggles, it’s important to make sure we surround ourselves with the right people to help us along the way. There’s a quote by an unknown author that says,“Don’t dwell on those who let you down, cherish those who hold you up.” I just started to learn this lesson towards the end of 2011 and I’ve made sure to incorporate it into my new year’s resolutions because (knowing me) I sometimes have trouble letting go.
A fault of mine is that I can be too kind &/or too trusting for my own good & I’m learning to not let others take advantage of that. Someone taught me that you can be 99% sure that a friendship is over if you’re constantly questioning it. You shouldn’t have to question your friendships. I remember reading an article online that talks about friendship and how we must always keep in mind that friendship is meant to enhance your life, not complicate it. It also explained that it’s OK to have outgrown each other, thus bringing me back to the first quote I listed. I want to thank everyone who has come into my life, whether they were there for a reason, season, or if they’re sticking around for a lifetime. People change, things change, we change, & that’s OK. We can’t be afraid of change. All we can do is appreciate what we have when we have it & move on when it’s time to move on. These lessons can be applied in many aspects of life.
Another good lesson to learn is that sometimes it’s important to let our actions (& other people’s actions) speak for themselves—because words are worthless until they’re proven through actions. In other words…. don’t let your mouths be full and your deeds be empty. Sooner or later someone will call your bluff. Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me. Isn’t that how the saying goes?
One of my sister’s once told me that it doesn’t matter whether or not the hurtful things someone says or does was intentional or unintentional. What matters is the way it makes you feel & if that person is continuously hurting you in some way or another, then you don’t need that negativity in your life. Regardless of if that person is conniving or oblivious, you need to care more about your own feelings, happiness, & well being. We need to shed the negative people, actions, & thoughts from our lives in order to focus more on the positive. That’s the only way to grow. It’s the only way to live.
In closing… Hakuna Matata.
♥ lovelife & keep smiling.
